My resolutions

“Some people think that to be strong is to never feel pain. In reality, the strongest people are the ones who feel it, try to understand it, and accept it!”
“The souls that have seen the darkest days can shine the brightest light. Keep going!”

When you’re in pain, note to self:“最痛就这么痛了”~ Then, moves on =)
We can’t say that we are strong without “proof” ~ Angel can’t be called as angel if they can’t beat demons ~ To be in the negative frequency is super easy compared to place ourselves in the positive frequency, but it is worth our effort to be a better ones ^^

It is nothing more than bluffing if words can’t be proven through action(s)..  

To be our own evaluator~ To be true to ourselves~

求你别再与世隔绝，漠不关心，不闻不问了，好吗？

良心，良知，你们一定要将那些恶魔：贪、嗔、痴、妒、慢、疑,私心等等，在它们涌现时立即斩除~ 

I know sometimes the power of my inert demon is so strong than the inert angels, I’m so sorry..  Yea, “Sorry” should come together with actions too (:

Must train myself to be a wiser one =) Dear良心，良知, I know If I always follow You, I will always be right, right? =P

Simple meals but not simple

病了还为家里的大小事务奔波，尽心尽力地付出。。病了却还是一大清早天还未亮就起身做早餐。。

I love spicyyyy foods so muchhhh n she knows it =)
“咳得那么厉害，才不要吃辣。。我只是煮而已～”
讲的就是那道咖喱山猪肉。。

头发，也是她帮我修的呢！ =P

 Where does Love originate from? The heart? Maybe Love comes from the heart, and so can only FEEL through the heart? Well, not really know the answer, but fine..
I can feel from them, my aunt and uncle, who have taken care of me since I was baby, they who give more than they take, what is called “LOVE”! =)

开始

还挺喜欢听新年歌的，不为什么，就喜欢那种单纯的欢乐，开心，赤子之心，对新的开始充满希望，活力和冲劲的那种感觉～

【开心最重要】

如果能将这份对开始充满欢喜，抱着希望去前进的精神与心态维持并延续到另一个新的开始就最好不过了～=)

『人生可以随时开始，即使只剩下生命中的24小时。
一个人只要还能思考，还充满了梦想，就一定可以重新开始自己的人生。可以为什么，有时我们明明知道自己已经错了，还是继续错下去，或是已深陷痛苦之中，却仍然不愿逃离出来呢？“不敢”或“不舍”将自己陷于困局？如果明知这条路不适合自己，再走下去的结果也只是枉然，何不立即舍弃重新开始呢？

日本作家中岛薰曾说：“认为自己做不到，只是一种错觉。我们开始做某事前，往往考虑能否做到，接着就开始怀疑自己，这是十分错误的想法。”

人生随时都可以重新开始，没有年龄限制，更没有性别区分，只要我们有决心和信心，梦想，即使到了六七十岁也能实现。
今天是一个结束，又是一个开始。昨天的成功也好，失败也好，今天都可以重新开始，重新开拓自己的人生。昨天失败了，不要紧，今天忘记了它，总结失败的教训，继续新的努力。即便昨天是成功的，今天依旧要重新开始，在成功的基础上继续努力，争取更辉煌的进步。
人生的意义都不同，你需要的是发现属于自己的人生观、价值观。』
（摘自网络: 人生的起点可以随时开始）

结束就是开始，开始就会有结束，可是不是每一次的结束都会有开始～
每一次的开始都勇敢豁地出去吧！
一做就要做到最好！^^
一不做，二不休！
加油！=P

祝：新年快乐  (^_^)
        勇往直前
        马到功成

何谓“厉害”？

housemate 问我：为什么要一直读重复地读，也不懂读了多少遍，然后我回答她说：“因为我不厉害咯～” 有道理吧，因为并不厉害，才必须要靠后天的努力～其实我真的没有你们想象中的厉害，就像普通人一样，我靠的只是努力和坚持的毅力~没有勤劳，我还是差的~ 没有一直重复，我读一两次根本就没办法记得～有时候我是气自己的，因为我靠的仅是努力～其实我是必须要比其他人努力几十倍才能跟上别人的脚步的，吸收能力慢，看我blur blur就知道～可能观念的不同是，即使必须要付出比别人多的努力，我还是会坚持努力到底～或许吧，是毅力造就了现在的我～

曾经也有人问我，为什么你要从science stream 转去art stream？不觉得浪费吗？
不会浪费的～我仍记得当初这决定背后的初衷：因为我想去看和学不一样的东西～这是最主要的原因.. 其它原因包括：我不想再碰maths了。。结果上了大学还是有maths的subjects: statistics for applied science, statistics for business, technique quantitative for business.. 可是，我必须要说，很感激 Form 6 修maths T 的过程，很难熬的科目，的过程~ 还记得曾经一边做数学题，眼泪一直流；曾经对着一题数学题呆了整整的半小时，无力感与无助感到了极点；曾经跟数学题“对望”得要把它撕烂扔远远的～哈哈！ 可是这种种却让我接下来走的路轻松简易很多，因为，那么艰难的都熬过来了，你就没那么容易被打倒了！=)

然后今天某人问我，你读的这科是关于什么？第一反应就是stunt住几秒，原因是：其实也不清楚耶，太杂了，像rojak那样参杂这里碰一点那里碰一点～曾经有人说这个course就像是很多把剑，但每把剑都不是把很利的剑～可是我不后悔当初的选择，虽然一开始因不习惯而引起的些些后悔，可是现在没有那样的感觉了，反而觉得很幸运，因为选的是这科～虽然答不出这科是关于什么，就只能敷衍地回答：关于management咯~ 哈哈，lolz.. 但这并不代表说大学四年的时光就是浪费的～觉得大学生涯是一个process, 一个过程，在那过程中所学到的，所经历的，所体验的每个小细节，才是促使我们成长的过程，比如说，赶assignment的过程，presentation的过程，lecture的过程等等等。。那一些小小的细节将来一定会有它的价值所在～

意义，有时候，是必须自己寻找的～

仰望天空

在网上看了片文章，其中有那样写着：
"大部份的人之所以无法接受所愛的人死亡，并不单纯是因為想念对方，而是因为很气自己为什么当对方在世时，沒有花足夠的时间陪伴他。我听过一个故事，在一场葬礼中，一位丈夫非常哀伤地在妻子的坟前，旁人试着安慰他，这个丈夫說「我愛她，我真的愛她，我差点就告诉她了！」他之所以哭泣，是因为沒有在妻子活着的時候做这件事."

确确实实地点中那条“脉”～lolz.. haha..

喜欢仰望天空，仿佛您就在那里 =)

想起您爱坐着那椅子看着外头那里的风景～我，不明白为什么，也从来没过问，您在看什么，心在想什么。。可是现在的我真的好想知道，到底，您是在想些什么呢？当您看到您疼爱的孙女就近在那儿却没陪您，到底您的感受是怎样的呢？

或许，如果有那么一天，我坐在那位置，经历同样的事与待遇，就会明白，您的内心感受。。

我从十一楼跳下

当我从11楼跳下 

 我看到10F恩爱著称的阿呆夫妇正在互殴

 我看到9F平常坚强的Peter正在偷偷哭泣

8F的阿妹发现未婚夫跟最好的朋友在一起

7F的丹丹在吃她的抗忧郁症药

6F失业的阿喜还是每天读七份报找工作

5F受人敬重的王议员正在偷穿老婆的内衣

4F的Rose又和男友闹分手

3F的阿伯每天都盼望有人拜访他

2F的莉莉还在看她那结婚半年就失踪的老公照片

在我跳下之前，我以为我是世上最倒霉的人

现在我才知道每个人都有不为人知的困境

我看完他们之后深深觉得其实自己过得还不错……

所有刚才被我看的人现在都在看我

（朱德庸漫画：当我从11楼跳下）

“其实人的生活都是一样的，在觉得自己不幸的同时别人可能比自己更不幸。

我们不该因为小小的挫折而停止不前，自暴自弃，其实这个世界上比我们惨十倍甚至百倍的人很多，从某种意义上说我们都是幸运的！”

人生有起有落，还是知足常乐！ =P

如果死亡是必然的，那么，应该如何度度过仅有的一生？

“我以为我受到了很多苦，但是我不知道有那么多难受的人宁愿咬牙也要坚持走下去的感觉。反思自己，没有用尽全力去做一件事情，没有倾注身心去爱一样事情，更没有孤注一掷坚持过。作为拖延症重度患者，最近我体内的懒惰小孩快要将勤奋的小孩打死了。死前，勤奋小孩说，如果我们的生命不为自己留下一些让自己热泪盈眶的日子，你的生命就是白过的。”

来源自：人与人之间最小的差别是智商，最大的差别是坚持

Self-serving bias+Fundamental Attribution Error

Okayyys.. lets have a blog while preparing for final.. hmm..is about.. hohoho.. lets see..find it something good to think about in real life situation..

Fundamental Attribution Error--The tendency to overestimate the impact of personal disposition and underestimate the impact of the situations in analyzing the behaviors of others~

Actor observer bias-tendency to see other people’s behavior as dispositionlly caused, while focusing on the role of the situational factors in explaining one’s own behavior~

Self-serving bias--tendency to take credit for our success (internal attributions) but to blame the situation (external attribution) for our failures~

Found it related to : our judging, our thinking~

Lets reflect..
Do we like to just use our own standpoint to simply judge people?
Do we just know how to point our fingers to others without thinking of whether we have faults also upon the matter?
Do we keep on grumbling, keep on talking not good behind others without reflecting on ourselves? or without thinking that others may put so much patience on us too?

If you judge people, you have no time to love them. ~ Mother Theresa

SILENCE, sometimes is the best explanation when u really don't feel like explaining any longer, maybe?
Being silence is just nice when u r no longer feel like explaining to those that just use their own position to judge n criticize.. Perhaps they r not  significant  to waste your energy to explain? Perhaps even after your explanation,there is just nothing much value-added there.. or just make the thing worst..?
Before you accuse me, take a look at yourself. ~ Eric Clapton
Everyone is special, never judge on others.. Be respectful.. You will never know what are the others story behind, others true feeling, never, till u undergo what they have experienced..
It is an unnecessary burden to make negative judgmental assumptions about others. We are all on a journey. ~ Steve Maraboli
“Love is the only mirror we must use to judge ourselves and others.” 
― Bodie Thoene, A Daughter of Zion
We can never judge the life of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path. ~ Paulo Coelho
The road in front is unpredictable, you are where you suppose to be.. that is perhaps your choice.. Don't blame on it k.. don't blame on the situation, don't blame on others, don't blame the Creator.. U r blessed some way, it really depends on whether u can see  those blessings through your wisdom eye.. I believe those life processes are worth our efforts n have their own values n meaning as long as we keep our mind positive, acts positively n look at or if can't see, find the blessings, even just the trivial stuffs~

Perhaps, I am different, I am weird, I am crazy..

People will judge you for no reason. Use the stones they cast to build a solid foundation because once you are strong, you are unstoppable. ~ Michael Kilby

I want to be the one that I want to be..
I choose my life, I choose my way, I choose what I want to do n to-be..
My life, I decide.. =)

Love those who know how weird, how crazy I can be, but still show me their undying, involuntary kindness n love~ Appreciate u all so much.. Muacks^^

Proud of my perseverance sometimes, hohoho.. XD
and after going for hiking with another bunch of friends, then only I know how much do they, PMP-hiking teammates, bear with me.. yea, I think I am the burden of the team.. TtQqqqqVVVVMMMMMM! =P

The route is unpredictable,  there are uphills on the way going downhills.. It has lots of branches.. The process, though it is exhausting and energy-depriving hehe.. I still like mountain climbing after all! :-p

不觉得那是累，我倒觉得那是实实在在的充实！=P